I wrote an article back June of 2014, and oh, boy, did I want to bring this article back to front and center here on my blog. I know this information will resonate with you. It seems that every client, whether in my office or through my online coaching, is going through an amazing and beautiful transition or transformation in his/her life! It’s been an interesting year. This is for anyone who’s been struggling with goodbyes and boundaries.
It’s purging time, and this sometimes requires us to get out of our comfort zone, confront situations, honor our beliefs, and get real and honest with ourselves.
This is very close to my heart, and it has been the real catalyst of evolution and transformation for myself and my clients.
This year has been a year of major purging for many of us, wouldn’t you agree? I know it’s been huge for me, as well as for those clients I’ve been attracting in my business and personal life. But sometimes letting go is what makes us stronger.
I know it's hard, but remember, in life goodbyes are a gift. When certain people walk away from you and certain opportunities close their doors on you, there is no need to hold onto them or pray to keep them present in your life.
If they close you out, take it as a direct indication that these people, circumstances, and opportunities are not part of the plan for the next step of your life.
It’s a hint that your personal growth requires someone different and something more, and life is simply making room. So embrace your goodbyes because every “goodbye” you receive sets you up for an even better “HELLO.”
If you are struggling with your goodbyes, here are 7 things I’ve been recommending to clients to really focus on this month, especially during the holiday season.
1.Exercise. If you’ve been slacking, get going here! Exercise induces feelings of vigor and joy by releasing the happy hormones that give you the feel-good responses we're forever seeking.
When a machine such as a motor vehicle is left sitting for a long period of time, it will rust. The same holds true when the body ceases to move and stretch. Toxins will gather in joints and cause stiffness.
No matter how you choose to cleanse, your lymphatic system relies on motion and movement to help it do its job of moving these out of your body with ease.
The lymphatic system doesn't move on its own as we were designed to move. In fact, if the body doesn't move, the lymphatic system becomes sluggish and overburdened with poisons and toxins.
Basically, the more we move, the more waste is flushed out of our systems. The less we move, the more toxins are stored in our bodies. There are no shortcuts; we simply have to move.
2. Fasting. Fasting is practiced by almost every religion around the world. It’s no surprise that a lifestyle that includes intermittent fasting could lead to a deepened sense of spirituality. Regular practitioners have reported feeling at peace during their fasts, and studies have proven that fasting can help regulate mood by reducing levels of anxiety and stress. In fact, fasting is recommended as a natural treatment for a variety of emotional problems.
3. Spend some time alone. I’m somewhat of an introvert, and I very much need my alone time. See your alone time as an opportunity to take good care of yourself. This means exercising, eating right, getting enough sleep, and finding ways to manage your stress. The most common excuse for not taking care of ourselves is that we don’t have enough time. Combine this with your alone time and you will!
This will also have a positive effect on the time you spend with your friends. The better you take care of yourself, the better you’ll be in your relationships with others.
4. Connect with nature. Studies show that people who live within one kilometer of a park or wooded area experience less anxiety and depression than those who live farther away from green space.
When I’m feeling stressed out, when my mind is racing with cluttering thoughts, or I just feel “disconnected,” I hug a tree for natural healing.
Those hippies were onto something! It turns out that science says tree-hugging is a great health tip to relieve stress, increase calmness, and possibly positively affect your physical health, too.
So go on, don’t be shy! Hug a tree.
And if anyone calls you a fairy, tell them to join you or "B-off" you're doing some serious healing with Mother Nature.
Well-known minister Jentezen Franklin, to whom I often listen along with many others, said that when we pray we open the door for God to come into our problems and situations and work on them. To pray is to let go of your belief that you are in control of your life and to give it over to something more inclusive than your own point of view.
Here’s a YouTube video on one of my favorite
messages, called “Formula for a Breakthrough,
” with Jentezen
6. Baths for Removing Negative Energy.
Have you ever noticed how surfers and people living by
the ocean are happy? Maybe it’s because they are cleared from negative energy on a regular basis by the ocean water. If you don’t have access to the ocean, take a bath with salt: Baths for Removing Negative Energy
Set an intention to release all negativity while you are soaking, and notice how amazing cleansing your body and aura will make you fee
7. Use Essential Oils.
One of the best-studied areas of aroma research is the effect of smell on emotions and mood. For example, there is convincing evidence demonstrating that simply inhaling the aroma of an essential oil is effective for calming nervous or anxious feelings in a variety of settings.
The smell receptors located on the upper surface of the nasal cavity make direct links with the limbic system of the brain, an area that governs the body’s emotional responses.
This close connection between aroma and emotion becomes obvious in our everyday life as certain odors
trigger memories or specific feelings. Some aromas directly impact mood (for example calming, balancing, or invigorating), while others trigger memories of a specific experience, often one tied to a strong emotion.
I’d love to hear from you about what you’re letting go of that is making you stronger, and how you’re dealing with your goodbyes. Leave a comment on my blog!