Relationship Between Desire and Fear

Last week, I interviewed Guy Finley. We talked about “letting go”:

Here’s what Guy Finley said about the relationship between desire and fear:

“There is a difference between need and desire. Say that I desire to have a new car, a bigger house, or a better job. All of these ideas, by which I have a desire to fulfill myself through something outside of me, have their roots in a certain sense of being insufficient, inappropriate, [or] not enough of myself. Therefore, I need some new image that is larger, so that when I get it, I'm as large as that which I have acquired. I desire this in order to free myself of something that I'm not happy about in myself.

The very fact that I now desire this and begin to derive a sense of pleasure even before I get it makes me dependent upon that desire. I must get that or not only will I not become a larger person, but I will actually be sentenced to remain this inferior person that I am. But no one thinks of themselves as being inferior; they think of themselves as needing something superior. But the inferiority and the superiority are linked; they are opposites, and they are part of this divided mind that I'm talking about.

So, this desire always produces fear, because should I not get what I've desired, I will have to "remain" who I imagine myself to be. And if I do get what I desire, I must not ever lose it, or I will be relegated to returning to who I was. We live in this nightmare trap that incidentally, is of our own unconscious making. No one is doing this to us. This is all part of an uninvestigated mind, participating in its own dynamic and the darkness that it produces in its relationship with that.”

I’ll have the replay of this amazing interview available in the Member’s Area soon.

You can view Guy Finley’s talk schedule at www.guyfinley.org.